Giving Thanks

I ran a workshop this week which touched on the links between happiness and gratitude.  When we remember to notice and give thanks for the good things in our lives we experience a powerful sense of connection with ourselves, with other people, and with the here and now; it’s a shortcut to happiness.

We also discussed the more challenging idea of giving thanks for whatever happens to us, unconditionally – that perhaps even things that don’t seem like gifts could be blessings in disguise.  It’s a shift of belief – as Robert Holden says, ‘What if life didn’t happen to you, it happened for you?’  A concept we use in NLP is that of reframing ie. taking a new perspective or putting a positive spin on a situation, in order to deliberately change our response to it.   Continue reading

More Reflections on Coaching Happiness

Let’s start with some real reflections from the Lake District – we’re enjoying a few days of golden autumn sunshine.  Thank you to my musician friend Fiona who captured this beautiful view across Windermere.

I promised a few more thoughts on workshops I’ve delivered recently.  The one I co-facilitated at the Cumbria Coaching Network‘s Coaching for Happiness conference with Beth Curl of Hyproformance was called Happiness from Within, and explored how some of our beliefs about happiness – often influenced by early family messages – can affect our later experiences.  Our participants had many thoughtful insights, both in the group discussions and in feedback afterwards. One mentioned two things that had a big impact on her, so I thought I would share them with you.     Continue reading